Anger. My dictionary defines it as, "a feeling of extreme
displeasure, hostility, indignation, or exasperation toward someone or
something," (The American Heritage Dictionary, 1982). I have to admit,
I've experienced this emotion on many occasions. From the careless driver who
cuts me off in traffic, to the willful disobedience of a child, anger has a way
of coming to the surface and demanding action. How do I deal with it?
I'm a tea drinker. There's just something about the aroma
and light flavor of a cup of tea that makes me smile. I've also learned a thing
or two from the many teabags I've used over the years. As soon as I pour hot
water over the teabag, the water is infused with the color of the contents of
the bag. It happens in the space of a few seconds - what's on the inside of the
teabag, comes out. In the case of tea, that's a good thing. Where anger is
concerned, a different story.
Cain and Abel were the first brothers in history. Growing
up, I'm sure they had their fair share of squabbles. But one day, Cain gave
into his anger, with disastrous results. When the young men offered their
sacrifices to the Lord, Abel's sacrifice was accepted, but Cain's was rejected.
Cain was mad. In fact, he was furious.
God gave Cain the opportunity to bring a different offering.
Instead of offering the right kind of sacrifice, Cain allowed a seed of anger
to germinate in his heart, toward his brother. Before long, the 'seed' had
grown into a tree. Cain acted on his anger, "And Cain talked with Abel his
brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up
against Abel his brother, and slew him," (Genesis 4:8; KJV).
If I'm not careful, I find myself allowing anger to take
control, just like Cain. I say things that are unkind, and do things that I
later regret. But the choice is mine. Having accepted Christ as my Savior, I
have a new nature (2 Corinthians 5:17). And the power of the Holy Spirit enables
me to choose to respond to life's irritations with love, patience, gentleness,
and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
Today I have the opportunity to yield to the Lord and allow
Him to guide my actions when I experience anger. His Word reminds me that anger
is just an emotion - it's what I do with it that's important, "Be ye
angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath,"(Ephesians
4:26).
Remember my cup of tea? What's on the inside WILL eventually
come out. That's why it's so important to meditate on the right things,
"Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are
honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever
things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any
virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things," (Philippians
4:8). My prayer is that, when irritations come, my response will be to overflow
with the good things of the Spirit!
Do you allow anger to control you? What step will you take
today to have a godly response next time you're faced with anger?
Prayer: Heavenly Father, Thank You for creating us with
emotions. Forgive me when I react to anger with harmful words and actions. Help
me to yield to the Holy Spirit and meditate on the right things, in order to respond
in the right way when things upset me. In Jesus' name, Amen.
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